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Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen are right, being a twin can feel like you’re ‘married’

Posted on Friday, August 31, 2018 at 03:30PM by Registered CommenterBarbara Klein, Ph.D., Ed.D. | CommentsPost a Comment

What Is Important About Twin Fascination: Twinships can tell us about close relationships

Posted on Wednesday, August 29, 2018 at 06:35PM by Registered CommenterBarbara Klein, Ph.D., Ed.D. | CommentsPost a Comment

The Time Is Now to Start Getting Your Intense Sensitive Child Ready for School

Getting your child ready to go back to classroom responsibilities they did not have during the summer is a critical transition. Preparing your children for work with teachers, homework and friends has a big payoff. Your son or daughter will not miss a week or two of classroom time if they are ready the first morning school starts. Here are some strategies that will help your family.

* Start putting your kids to bed earlier and waking them up earlier. Stick to the new schedule no matter what.
* Get all your children’s school supplies, lunch box, and clothes ready and organized to avoid last minute hassles.
* Take time to start talking with your child about what they are thinking about going back to teachers and school friends. Perhaps your child may not want to discuss his/her feelings about school with you, but I would keep talking about this important transition between relative freedom and school structure and accountability anyway.
 
Here are some topics/questions that are important for parents to understand/delve into:
1.  Have you missed school?
2.  What friends are you looking forward to seeing?
3.  What was your favorite summer activity?
4.  What was the hardest part of summer break?
5.  What will you tell your friends about your summer holiday?
6.  We need to get you to bed earlier!
7.  What new clothes do you think you would like for school when we purchase your school supplies?
8.  Let’s make a play date with an old friend from school.

Posted on Thursday, August 9, 2018 at 12:25PM by Registered CommenterBarbara Klein, Ph.D., Ed.D. | CommentsPost a Comment

Identity Real Estate in Twins: A Consequence of Inadequate Parenting

Posted on Sunday, July 29, 2018 at 01:20PM by Registered CommenterBarbara Klein, Ph.D., Ed.D. | CommentsPost a Comment

The Wedding Dress: A parable for twins and parents.

Posted on Saturday, June 30, 2018 at 08:58AM by Registered CommenterBarbara Klein, Ph.D., Ed.D. | CommentsPost a Comment

Twin Estrangement Group 

If you are estranged from your twin and interested in being in a Skype group of like-minded people, please call me at (310) 443-4182 as soon as possible.

Posted on Tuesday, June 12, 2018 at 01:00PM by Registered CommenterBarbara Klein, Ph.D., Ed.D. | CommentsPost a Comment

Attentive Parenting: The foundation for trust in the adult lives of twins.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/twin-dilemmas/201805/attentive-parenting

Psychology Today also included my Attentive Parenting article on their webpage of Essential Reads: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/essentials

Posted on Thursday, May 31, 2018 at 12:22PM by Registered CommenterBarbara Klein, Ph.D., Ed.D. | CommentsPost a Comment

In the Words of a Child

DAY ONE

    This is a story about 3 robots. Ace “A," Charlie “C” and Bob “B”. A, B and C are on the school yard. Mr. T “The muscle man” is on yard duty.  Ms. Masi is letter M., she is in the classroom.

    Mr. T is walking on duty. A goes out to play and Charlie does the same.  Bob the bully starts bullying them and says, “you are stupid”.  A and C talk to Mr. T, Mr. T gives them advice. He tells them to use “I” messages. A and C said, “Be-bo Be-be”; translated “I don’t like it when you say mean things to us.” B goes inside his letter shell.  They all go inside their letter shell and they are carried into the classroom.

    You have to go into your letter shell to learn things. Ms. M is in her letter shell too. Everyone goes to sleep. They learn while sleeping.

DAY TWO

A and C make red puddles. The bully “B” is still in class. They (A and C) have red pen shooters. The bully comes out with black pen shooters and makes the puddles black.  Mr. T comes out to yard duty, spots “B” being a trouble maker.  Mr. T puts “B” in the classroom for the rest of the day.

    Ms. M stays inside all day. Ms. M doesn’t like “A” or “C," nobody does.  Dr. K comes to school.  She says in a mean voice “Stop picking on A and C, they are special people with special powers of love.” Mommy Q comes to the playground and A hugs her.  Ms. M says, “You should not be here now.” Ms. M puts up a fight with Dr. K and Mommy Q. Mommy Q and Dr. K win.

A, C, T, Mommy Q, Dr. K, Mr. Jenkins “J” send Ms. M back to Florida for Compassion School. Last time we checked Ms. M was still trying to learn compassion.

Posted on Sunday, May 6, 2018 at 07:22PM by Registered CommenterBarbara Klein, Ph.D., Ed.D. | CommentsPost a Comment

The Indelible Twin Identity. When have I done enough for my twin? When do I take my turn?

Posted on Friday, May 4, 2018 at 06:29PM by Registered CommenterBarbara Klein, Ph.D., Ed.D. | CommentsPost a Comment

How to Calm Down Your Gifted Child or Teenager

First things first. You have to really believe on a deep level that excitability and intensity is normal in gifted kids. In fact, emotional intensity and extreme passion are hallmarks of giftedness. Explaining this idea as primary leads to a strategy. Find ways to calm your son or daughter down. What works for your neighbor’s child will not work for you and your child necessarily. Challenging activities including visiting new places while traveling or just going to museums and concerts and skilled sports events will enliven your child and calm them down. Reading and internet activities that are intellectual are important as well. Coding classes and learning languages can also use up their brain power and calm them down. Art, music and drama get out some of their need for self-expression. Sports can help them focus and deal with competitive and physical energy.

Posted on Saturday, April 21, 2018 at 08:24AM by Registered CommenterBarbara Klein, Ph.D., Ed.D. | CommentsPost a Comment